new pc build

luckily I found out the next day so I was able to change my order.

It's terrible. Computer years are worse than dog years. Computer's are obsolete before you click the buy button.

That's pretty much what I was saying... Unless you get the best of the best, very top of the line computer, you have to replace it within 2 years, usually just after a year, sometimes even before that... Just crazy...

I usually hang on to computers for 4-5 years before I think about getting a replacement. It costs too much to have the best of the best. I'm happy to settle for 2nd best when it comes to computers.

Right now I'm thinking I'll wait another couple of months for my laptop in the hopes that something better gets cheaper for me. I don't have an urgent need, and I love my desktop computer Peter. He does a good job.

You name your computers with people names???

I replace computer about every 18 months give or take... I get a decent performance machine that I can get about 2 years out of... But with this Divorce I passed my 18 month mark about 4 months ago... But I figure Christmas will be kind to me... lol

gee this divorce is taking forever, maybe they should make it that it takes just as long to get married..............LOL

Women name their gadgets, Baf. Computers, cars, blenders...

-Fred

here you go baf advice for the second time around,

Being in a committed, long-term, happy and healthy relationship doesn't just happen. There's a lot of work involved to attain such domestic bliss!

And while it's important to know skills and tips for making a relationship work, we should also be aware of what will absolutely kill it.

Anne Hollonds, the CEO of Relationships Australia NSW, shares her expert insight into the issues that are recipes for relationship disaster.



1. Not spending enough time together
We know from our research at Relationships Australia that couples say the number one issue that affects their relationship is not having enough time together.

You need to create time you both need to talk — and play. Especially these days when we all seem to be so busy, "spare time" doesn't just happen. So schedule it and make it happen.

A common myth is that affairs are the biggest relationship killer. But they're not. Affairs are a symptom of other things — a partner feeling neglected or that their partner is not truly committed to them.


2. Lack of communication
Many people have trouble knowing how to communicate with each other and understand each other's points of view. It's so important to really listen and talk openly and honestly. Being honest is a behaviour that builds trust and respect, and is very important, but that doesn't mean we have to tell our partner everything that's on our minds. Sometimes it's more respectful not to be completely honest.


3. Work pressures
We know the work/family balance is a critical issue and also connected with the problem of lack of time. A hectic working life is emotionally and physically draining, so when we come home depleted, there's not a lot left to give each other.


4. Money
Money affects our relationships in a multitude of ways. If you don't have enough money and are struggling to make ends meet - maybe working two jobs — or commuting long distances for work, that leads to spending time away from your family.

Even if you are on a high income, most people are working long hours, and high mortgages and other financial pressures are often a source of conflict. So money can be an issue in all socio-economic groups.

It can also be a tool of power — if one person earns more than the other, it can be used to unfairly wield power.

It can also be the cause of arguments because of the types of families you've both come from — some don't ever discuss money, and others talk about money issues openly. So depending on your own background, money can be a difficult issue to discuss.


5. Kids
We all love our children dearly, but no-one can deny they require huge amounts of our time, money, and attention. On top of that, if you're not equally sharing all the responsibilities involved, it can be an enormously stressful time. Having children requires us to really work together as a team.


6. Lack of teamwork
Selfishness — not understanding each other and focusing purely on yourself — is a recipe for disaster. Blaming the other person all the time when things go wrong is also detrimental. You need to take responsibility for your part in the relationship. It's very harmful if both of you aren't paying attention to the needs of the relationship.

Strengthen your partnership, learn how to work as a team, show each other respect and behave in ways that build trust.



How do you save a relationship?
Schedule time for each other.
Talk. Communicate about the things that matter and agree on goals for your future together.
Look out for the other's needs, not just your own. Support each other.
Learn how to resolve disagreements without letting them damage your partnership. This includes negotiating on important things as well as letting some things go.
Have fun! "This is really important and so important for sexual intimacy too," Anne explains. "Be playful and have fun and create the time and emotional energy for each other. To do that, you really do need to look after yourself enough to be in that 'space' — especially for women."




When to see a counsellor
"Counselling is like coaching — like hiring a personal trainer," says Anne. "You need to be working on the relationship from the beginning, so don't wait too long, otherwise you're gambling on it working out. Then when it's so bad — if too much respect and goodwill has been eroded — it might be too late."

There will be no second time around... I ain't gettin' married again... I'll live in sin, if she don't like it, she knows where the door is...

Yes the Divorce is taking forever, she is dragging her feet, simply because she can, no other reason... She knows she is on the losing end and is scared of the final outcome...



I am not a gadget...

Boy did this thread take a wrong turn at Albuquerque!

-Cub. =o)

yeah, I was thinking the same, now were on to marriage, stuff the pc

actually marriage is like a pc, when it's tired & worn out just update to a new model..................LOL

the only difference is a pc can't have an a affair

Man you guys really switched years while I was sleeping.

Baf, Fred,
I only name my computers. I don't name any of my other stuff. Now that would be crazy.

Lynne,
Good words of advice. My problem with my first husband was that we spent way too much time together. I never had any time to myself, and he'd get angry if I left him alone for a couple of hours. I was beginning to feel suffocated. Work and money pressures also put the squeeze on us. I think our biggest problem was that we started out as friends and then became a couple. We got a long great as friends but not so good as a couple.

Luckily my divorce only took a couple months. He didn't fight me too hard. Sometimes I think we get married out of peer pressure. Everybody else is doing it so it must be a good idea. It's only a good idea if you are ready for it. I don't think you ever really know what you are getting into until you are there.

We're in bat country now, folks. Don't trip on the cure for cancer and leave the guns in the car.

-Fred

sam10100 wrote:It's only a good idea if you are ready for it. I don't think you ever really know what you are getting into until you are there.

You basically contradicted yourself right there...

How can you be ready for it if you don't know what you're getting into until you're already there???



Anyway, we waited until after the baby was born to get married, we waited to make sure it was something we felt/thought would last... We got almost 11 years out of it... Maybe 2 of those good...
But some people don't want a better life, no matter how hard you try to give it to them...