Unofficial Tex Murphy

I hadn't been around until recently because my Father passed away two weeks ago. I had never had a death in the family, never had anyone close to me die ever, and then in a blink of an eye the absolute closest person to me in my life up and left without even so much as a warning.

I took him to the hospital because he wanted to try and get some prescribed muscle relaxant to help a muscle strain he had in his upper shoulder and chest. Turned out it was a heart attack, and after a few moments of laughing and joking in the ER room with the nurses, he rolled his eyes into the back of his head, they called a code, and pretty much shoved me out of the room. I sat in the waiting room, confused, and scared to death that he was going to die. And when they came out and told me he did, I absolutely lost it mentally. I mean it was all I could do to let them let me leave the hospital with the way I was. I broke down. Not emotionally, but in a non responsive, shut in my own head, shocked as hell way. He hadn't been sick, or anything, and I lived with him. Nothing in my entire life has ever hurt me as much as this has. But over the last week, I've met family I didn't even know I had, a sister I hadn't seen in 15 years, so I've been able to cope.

You never truly know how much your family means to you, until you lose them. I know I have offered condolences to people before for their loss, but now, I know truly how they felt.

But anyway, that's where I was, and that's why I missed getting a question or two to Aaron. I don't know how much longer I'll be on here, because my dad had no insurance, and a pile of debt that I don't know what to do with, but for as long as I have internet access, I'll keep in contact with you guys. I've been here a few years, and as everyone here knows, it's the community that keeps you coming back every day.

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Sorry for your loss. May your father rest in peace.

Stay in touch with your feelings. Allow yourself to grieve, accept life as a cycle. One's passing is a beginning of a fresh cycle of life for all. Take as much time as _you_ need to move to the next level of your life.

We are here, should you need us.

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I'm so sorry my friend. I have no way of knowing how that feels, but my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I can very much relate with you. My father was diagnosed with cancer out of the blue and told he had 2 years to live with treatment, one year to live without treatment...He took the treatment and still passed within the year. I didn't lose my father as fast and as sudden as you did, but I understand the idea of losing that one figure in your life that was your cornerstone, your mentor, the one person you always looked to for answers. I know that pain that is tearing you apart. I am sorry for your loss and I will pray for you. Please, please please...do not do what I did, and bury your emotions and feelings. My dad passed over 3 years ago and I still haven't truly confronted my emotions about it. Allow it to wash over you and take you in, but hang on to your strength in family to pull you out, and you will find a way to get by, and find peace with it. We are all here for you if you need someone.

Terrible news.

My condolences to you and your family. It's such a loss. You're a strong person, and you have many friends here who will support you though thick and thin, so please take care and stay in touch, and always know we will be here to listen to whatever you want to share with us.

*big man hug*

Take care man.

-Cub. =o)

Gosh, I am so sorry to hear this. It is one of the great trageties in life I wish none of us had to experience.

You know, JTOG and I aren't too far away, up in Michigan. Come visit some time.

As with those who already posted, a big ditto from TOG. My heart goes out to you and your family. As the Doc said, we are not far away; come see us. PM either one of us and we can give you driving instructions.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I think it can be really rough when it is confirmed for you that your parents are mortal. While I have always known that, and my dad has been in excellent shape for a very long time, I was reminded of his mortality very recently. He was diagnosed with prostate cancer just about five or six months ago. He just had surgery this past Wednesday and his prostate was removed. It's been a rough time for me, as both of my parents are off in Houston, Texas. I've talked to them everyday, but wished I could be there instead of here at home working and going to school.

Like the others have said, take time to grieve. I know this doesn't help now, but time really does help to heal all wounds. Nobody every completely gets over something like this, but you can begin to heal as much as you can.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Shoved you out. No one is going to do that to me.

Inevitably, you will have dreams where Dad is alive and healthy and everything's great. Cherish those dreams. Talk to him and tell him you love him. He'll hear ya.

My deepest, sincerest condolences. If there's anything anyone here can do for you, never hesitate to ask.

Be well.

-Fred

Damn, that's an awful tough thing to have to go through. I seriously have no idea what you're going through.

I hope you can focus on the good things and make it through ok. As long as we keep memories of those we love, they leave their mark on us and never truely die

Really sorry to hear this. Wakes are usually surprisingly upbeat - meeting family you haven't seen in ages and reflecting on good times.

As for the hardship thats to come, feel free to PM me if I can give any advice. Here in the UK any debts with the deceased would pass with him and wouldn't get burdened on you (I keep telling a friend I'm leaving my debt to her). If its funeral expenses, check paperwork - there might be benefits you aren't aware of. Was he still working?

I don't know your law obviously but if I can help I will.

Verry sad to hear about your loss and problems. My best wishes go out to ya. Like most have said remember all the times u had together, and i am sure he knows how u feal.

I am sure i speek for all of us when i say we will try and help u get though these hard times.