Unofficial Tex Murphy

Sorry to hear bout all that.

I've learned from past relationships to never try to save anyone......
unless they want to be.

All it ever cause me was pain when I tried.

It would probably be best for ya to stay single for a while too... You never know how it will emotionally hit you once it is all said and done. I once jumped straight into a relationship after ending one and it was a disaster. I ended up worse off after because I was willing to settle to cope with loneliness. Not a good thing.

Anyway, good luck to ya.

PS: Maybe a new avatar is warranted =) Shed to old skin... no pun intended.

Nah I'm not gonna be sore over it... This last time of being together I think was more out of pity than love... We separated once before and then about a year and a half later her father left and moved to Florida leaving her practically on the street... Mother of my child I couldn't bare seeing her like that, so I extended my hand in help, needless to say when she grabbed my hand she stomped on my foot in thanks... lol

I'm not really looking to get into a relationship anytime soon, but if it happens it happens...

I've considered changing the avatar, but I see artwork when I look at it, not her... I'm not very artistic, but I'm rather proud with this avatar... I've had it many years now, it's just part of who I am anymore, I have it on my Cell phone as my wallpaper, I use it on Yahoo, I just use it all over the place...

I do have another one I could use... It was kind of modeled after her, but it is all carton, no real images like the blue one...

Let me know what you think...

Kinda inappropriate with all that nudity, but it's so hard to see unless you squint and kinda tilt your head.

-Fred

PS: There's a Monkey Island (3) quote in there somewhere.

Alright I'll look for something else... I have a thing for eagles if you can't tell... lol

There ya go!

-Fred

It feels kind of plain... I can't take too much credit for this one, all I did was the coloring and choose the moon the silhouette was done by someone else, but I can deal with it for now...
Maybe I'll redesign that purple one a bit and make it more suitable/appropriate...

Bafitis,

I can say I am sorry for you, but reading your posts I think you are happy about the break.
It will be hard at first but time heals all wounds, but It takes a while.

I don't tell many people, but I was married once which only lasted 2 months, took me about 2 years to get fully over it, as far as relationships I avoid them.

Some people are better on their own & I am one of them.

I'm sorry to hear about your split Baf, but if it's doing good by you and you're better for it, then it is ultimately for the best. Soooo ... with that being said ...

Welcome to the singles territory!!! Heh Heh ... Oh-righhht .... gigitty.

Yeah, what everybody said in sympathy I go along with. Top 10 worse events in a person's life includes getting a divorce. Regardless if it ends up good, bad or indifferent, it is still quite emotional, stressful and time challenging. Best to you.

And, no, I do not need or want her number. Sheesh, Fred! You are incorrigible! And we love it!

Again I appreciate all the kind words...

Jim you left out expensive... lol
I've spent about 7 grand so far on Lawyer fees...

I'll tell you this, the worst thing is all the waiting in between this and that...

I picked my son up Friday evening after he spent Monday through Friday with his mother... He wasn't showing any signs of being tired come 11pm, during the summer his bedtime is Midnight...

So I asked him what time he got up, he told me 3pm... So then I asked him what time he had been going to bed all week, he told me that it was starting to get light out...

What kind of structure is that for a child of only 11 years???

Well, at about that age, honestly I had the same routine.

And I ended up working at McDonalds ...

Make that kid go to school and read books or sumthin!

But seriously, dude, in my opinion, I don't think what time you are up and what time you go to bed really matter. I mean, I guess it does for some people somewhere, but who is to say you have to sleep when it is dark out? My momma? I haven't seen two in the afternoon in I can't remember how long.

When school is back in session, that is a totally different story.

But if the set time is midnight, the set time is midnight. Regardless of being there or not, it is not cool for the one parent to let him get away with something where the other will not. I mean I wouldn't think it would be. It'll lead to problems, favoritism, etc... It's little things like that, which will make you want to pull your hair out. My dad did, and I wasn't much help. (because hey, when you're the kid you're told "it's bad your parents got divorced", but at least in my shoes, I milked em both for all they were worth. What one wouldn't let me do, the other would and vice versa. You learned to play the table. Maybe that will help, although I doubt he may have the exact lil evil point of view I had.)

Actually it's been scientifically proven that the human brain doesn't get the required rest it needs sleeping during daylight hours and at 11 years old the development of the brain is very important... So I do consider the sleep schedule to be a problem...


I can't have her risking his health just so she can try to win brownie points...

You bring up a good point about the favoritism though... This is exactly what I think she is trying to do before we go to court... 11 years old is an iffy age when it comes to Judges, some judges will listen to them others don't think they are old enough to give valuable input... But by not giving him rules of any kind and letting him do whatever he pleases, she is probably hoping to tip the favoritism in her favor...
He is smarter than that though, according to his therapist anyway... One of the things that he likes most about me is the fact that I'm here to give him structure and teach him how to be a man... Those are his words according to his therapist...

One thing he knows about me, I'm not milkable... lol
His choice at the beginning of the separation was to stay here and I don't think that has or will change...
But as I said, I can't have her putting his health in jeopardy, just because she wants to be the "Cool" parent...

I don't think you will be offended by this at all so I am going to just come out and say it.... in fact... you probably said it before.

Your ex wife seems to be incredibly immature. Something tells me she's been like that since the beginning.... how did you put up with that for so long?

I know everyone goes through phases... i went through that phase too up to the age of 23... then i got a huge wake up call by spending a night in jail.... (drunk driving.... not something i am proud of). Anyway.... you said she is almost 30.... that attitude would drive me nuts.

She turned 30 in January... Yes she is quite immature... She seems like she just wants to be 17, 18, or 19 and not have a care in the world... Sorry, but that ain't how it works... Especially when you go and have kids... Which is another thing, I don't think she ever really wanted kids, she just wanted one because most of her friends had already had one... Not exactly the best reason to go and have a child...


As for putting up with it, it's been a rough road, I ain't about to lie about that... But for the most part I was always the one to handle Disipline and most of the Rules were set down by me... I'm talking about our Son... I never tried to control her, just her spending of money...


You want a bit about the sh;t I've had to deal with over the last few years??? Go to Google and type in Haarhoff McKay that should bring up a few news stories for you to look through... If you get the same search result as I do typing that in, you can click on the Very First link "A Son Looks To The Future" by the Baltimore Sun... That story names my Wife in it, so you can see that I'm not lying, Mandy Bafitis is quoted in the 5th paragraph... Haarhoff is her maiden name...

And if you click on the Link to the left under related stories, Merritt Point Park, you can see a Picture they used that has my Son in it...


All that stuff is just part of the cake I've had to eat over the past 11-12 years... But it gives you a rough idea of the type of people she is accustom to being around...